Do you really want to overcome your fears and problems? Do we really need to overcome everything? Another approach is finding the medicine, powers, unusual opportunities, and even ecstasy hidden within the problems and fears. Within the deep sense feeling, embodied emotions, movements, postures and relationships patterns associated with fears and problems can be found enormous powers, potentialities and ways to freedom.
Do we really want to completely overcome the possibility of failure? We are courageous when we totally face the realistic prospect of failure and that things can be lost. We become courageous because of our vulnerability and our ability to hold and feel in an embodied way both our everyday fears and the deeper alchemical energies behind our fear.
Do we really want to get away from making mistakes completely? It is partly through our mistakes and regrets, when we really hold and process them, that we really learn who we are; through our mistakes we learn the contours of our deepest being, the shape of our embodied soul, the way to our calling.
Do we really want to get rid of our grief? Our grief connects us with life. It is a necessary honouring of who we are and of life. When we fully feel it, and let ourselves be ravished by it, however painful it is, it won’t kill us, but it reminds us of what is of value, of who and what we love. Through the gap of grief a river of our love and our beautiful offerings can come into the world
Do we really want to be perfectly beautiful? Perhaps it is your strangeness, your unique diversity which generates your beauty and allows you to give your particular magnificent gifts. Your imperfection is perhaps a essential part of your wild beauty.
Do we really want to be perfect? It is our vulnerability and our imperfection which allows us to connect, which brings us together, which creates solidarity and sometimes creates intimacy. What would it be to give up perfection and choose intimacy and community instead?
Do we really want to get rid of decay and the inevitable falling apart of everything? When we deny decay and death as a culture, we come to fear it excessively and build enormous fortresses, vast psychological defence systems, colonial apparatus, even entire military systems to defend ourselves against it.
I’m told that in many traditional cultures, and I’ve also seen in modern ecovillages, it is the fact that your roof is made of straw or wood and falling apart which brings the village together to rebuild it. It is the decay and inevitable falling apart of everything which allows this deep sharing and community to appear. We come together as communities because we are fragile and imperfect.
Perhaps we don’t become whole, we are always whole, we are born whole and never lose it. Perhaps we are both always whole and also always incomplete. We don’t ever ‘become complete.’ In a way the journey of life is not to move from incompleteness to completeness but to learn to keep the gap of incompleteness open.
Our incompleteness is also our connection, our openness to life. Only a incomplete being can be open and be capable of love. Incompleteness is in some way higher, more holy, than completeness. Perhaps imperfection is in some mysterious way higher, more holy, than perfection.