In a relationship, rather than always focusing on oneness, it seems important to remember to see the other person as ‘other’ than you. Perhaps seemingly paradoxically, the more you can see them as ‘other’, them more connected you can be. In a sense the relationship essence, the wholeness that is the emergent result of the two beings coming together is fed by each being recognizing, respecting and listening to the other being’s uniqueness, particularity and difference from themselves.