Saying ‘NO’ to perfectionism, focusing on tiny details, task orientation and approval seeking may be also saying ‘YES’ to intimacy, abundance, community, mutual empowerment, synergizing and merging energies with others, the willingness to tolerate and even to find power in chaos and trouble, a sense of being ‘good enough’ and sufficient, the orgasmic body, the senses, community, the earthbody, the instinct that lives in the solar plexus, the heart, a wider vision, relaxed determined focus, spontaneous responsiveness, shamanic powers, the ability to enjoy conflict, the ability be with emotions however difficult they are, shameless sexuality, playfulness, magic, the non-human world, the intersubjective connection world, the big Self and an opening to the power of a larger force of nature moving through you